Since my teens I have been interested in psychology and found Carl Jung to be a great inspiration. I had been curious as to the individual ways that I and my friends at the time responded to what was happening in our lives. I recall that whilst living in a bedsit in Hampstead, amongst an eclectic mix of people, who all got on really well with each other, that on occasions when I felt really depressed, berating myself for my shortcomings and feeling just hopeless about myself and my life. I remember writing in my journal and slowly realising that these neighbours and also my friends at the time, didn’t see me the way I saw myself and that realisation sent me on a exploratory quest which I am on to this day.
After doing many short courses in my late 30s I did a BA in English Lit and enjoyed very much the psychological aspect of literature and the insight it afforded me to the inner world of the characters. Then in my mid 50s I finally decided to do an MA in Psychotherapy, which I realised I had been moving towards since my teenage years but had not been ready until that time.
I am still very interested in the works of Carl Jung, who was my first inspiration, also the wisdom that emerges through dream work, Mindfulness and Buddhism. I find they all weave beautifully together and help me in my work with each individual to help them move towards becoming more fully themselves.
Many of us suffer from anxiety both general and about something in particular and being able to explore the underlying causes can bring enormous relief. At various times in our life we may find life challenging, especially as a new mother, at a crisis point in our relationship, serious illness, then aging and having to confront death , our own or our loved ones. To share this with another who is not a close friend or relative, can be an enormous relief.
I did my dissertation on therapy with those suffering from anxiety around aging and dying, which has deep resonances with my Buddhist practice. My Buddhist practice also enables me to hold a transpersonal perspective on the human condition, which I find to be a great source of inspiration both personally and in my therapeutic practice.
I work mostly from a psychodynamic perspective, influenced greatly by the transpersonal. I also work from an MBCT (Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy) perspective, which includes CBT. I find this approach can be helpful when someone has a very specific issue that they feel needs more focused work.
At the point when a couple seek counselling for their relationship it is usually at a very tense stage and can be highly charged emotionally and it is often at this stage that neither partner feels ‘heard’ by the other. To be able to share some of these very painful feelings with a therapist present, can be very healing, and can lead to a greater awareness of how we are seen by our partners. This can then open a way forward to recapture some of the loving feelings that brought you together in the beginning. Often a couple find that on becoming parents their relationship undergoes a radical change and this can be a very difficult time for both partners, and may bring up past connections with their own parenting, which may have been less than perfect.